criticisms vs encouragement

for a person who's constantly plagued with confidence issues, it's advisable not to keep criticising him/her for the mistakes they commit. encouragement would do a better job because at least it doesn't crush the already low level of confidence the individual has on himself/herself.

and the low-confidence individual will retaliate in the form of silent anger, which sometimes is even scarier than outright anger. this is a defensive action, because the individual has constructed an invisible fence around himself/herself so as not to appear hurt by the comments that he/she receives.

sometimes, what he/she wants is just encouragement, just saying things like, "you didn't do well in these aspects, but you did well in other aspects." it sounds really hypocritical here, but seriously, for a person in desperate need of some confidence boost, this is really the type of encouragement you should give.

one reason i haven't been driving (contrary to the many other reasons that i've told others) is that i'm afraid of being scolded again when i make a wrong judgment or when i step on the accelerator instead of the brakes. i just dun want to end up being the laughing stock of the family whenever similar situations occur.

yes i've made mistakes in the past, but can't you move on and stop bringing those stuff up? it's not only making me feel lousy about myself, it's stopping me from driving altogether. and it's not like i made severe mistakes. i haven't brought any harm to the car at least. and when you were learning, you hated someone beside you telling you what to do, and to scream everytime you made a mistake, so why do the same thing to me? it's not like i didn't notice the mistakes that i've made.

and however good or experienced a driver is, he or she will always make mistakes. you dun expect someone who's still learning to be an ideal driver. yes you can point out my mistakes, but pls, for goodness sake, move on and let me have the confidence of driving after the experience. people need time to learn, and if one's confidence is always being crushed, what makes you think the person will have the confidence to drive again?

after so long, i've finally made myself drive again, so please let me drive till i learn how to drive on my own, then at least i will not be laughed at.

when i have the means, i will seriously want to buy my own car and drive myself around. then i dun have to be subjected to all the criticisms and laughter at my driving.

and i hate it when people do not practise what they preach. seriously, if i can only be at the receiving end of all blames, and you're ALWAYS right, i really dunno how long i can stay quiet about all these.

so ironic that i've been feeling seriously shitty about stuff that has been going on these days since i've just done an assignment on "improving happiness level". maybe the 'h' word just doesn't work for me.

just got rejected by the only call and interview i got from my internship applications. back to more intensive submission of resumes and cover letters.

IA mid-term tmr evening, leadership peer evaluation due on sunday noon, wow, absolutely no break even during weekends. what a life. what an e-learning. e-torture maybe.